| Wondering about trying online dating but confused about where to start? Or, have you been using online dating but not getting the responses or results you want?
It all starts with your user name, headline and profile. But it’s not so frightening or difficult, just take a deep breath, clear your mind of today’s worries and think positive! Here’s a useful insight about writing your great dating profile.
First, remember, you are trying to attract someone to read your profile and contact you. What are some of your positive attributes, or what are some of your favourite past-times or hobbies?
For example, let’s say you love American football. So maybe your user name could be 1,2,3,Hike! Your headline: “I’ll be your Quarterback, “ or, “You Can be my Quarterback”, or even, “The game is good, but half-time can be better!” Are you starting to get the idea?
As you write your profile think like the person who is going to read it. After all, you are, in a sense, speaking to them. Instead of: “I like to watch football and my favourite team is XXX”, you could write: “I’d like to spend a Sunday afternoon cheering on the team with you!” Now, you’re connecting with the reader and the reader starts visualizing doing the things you are interested in with you!
Also it makes it far more easier for someone to contact you because you have, basically, already started a conversation with them. With the above example, someone could contact you and say, “Hey, I loved your profile. I like Sunday football, too. What’s your favourite team? Mine’s XXX, but they’ve been lousy lately, so I may switch. Do you ever go to sports bars to watch?”
Are your initial emails like now?
Let’s have a quick look …
Quote:
Hi (person’s screen name), I saw your profile online, which I found to be quite interesting. I saw in it that you are hard working with goals in mind. I was wondering what some of your goals are, and if you don’t mind sharing them with me? (my name) Thanks a lot!
“I saw your profile online” - Well yeah, obviously! Leave this out, if you’re sending a short email, get to the point. Otherwise you have all fluff and no content.
“which I found to be quite interesting” - ‘quite interesting’… that’s about as unenthusiastic as you could possibly sound whilst still technically delivering a compliment. And don’t compliment the profile, compliment HER.
“I saw in it that you are hard working with goals in mind. I was wondering what some of your goals are, and if you don’t mind sharing them with me?” - This is not exactly a fascinating subject to open with. If you’re going to do it though, there is no need to be so over-the-top polite, as if you need permission to ask a question.
You could probably change that to something like:
Quote:
Hi (person’s screen name), You seem like a very driven, passionate person. I like that. I was wondering what some of your ambitions & goals are, and if you think pineapple makes a good pizza topping? (my name) Thanks a lot! My reasons:
“You seem like a very driven, passionate person. I like that.” - much more positive and definite. You’re talking to her now, not her profile.
“I was wondering what some of your ambitions & goals are,” - less beating about the bush than before
“and if you think pineapple makes a good pizza topping?” - I like to throw in something random and trivial if I send a ’serious’ email talking about the ‘bigger things’ like goals and ambitions.
It keeps things light and not too serious. It sends the message that she doesn’t need to take the reply too seriously, but can do if she wants. But that’s just me, you might want to ignore that if it’s not ‘you’.
See how much easier and successful it is when you target your write up to the viewer?
Now get writing!
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